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Midday Matinee – Winners and Losers

November 19, 2012

Midday Matinee

Midday Matinee – Winners and Losers

I have been guilty of being a glowing and sometimes gloating winner. Glowing may be okay but I’m working on curbing the gloating. Gloating won’t serve the spirit of compromise and coexistence that will move the country forward.(More)

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That spirit of coexistence doesn’t just have to happen in Washington. I still live in a world filled with Freds. There will be more elections. Right now I should be building bridges for the next election. Some active listening would be a better strategy than saying, “Nah, nah, nah, nah nah.”

It is hard for me to not head to my corner when the House Republicans are claiming a mandate. Really? Really? Speaker Boehner is still caught between the task of governing/compromising and the remnants of the Tea Party and the War on Women that defined the Republicans all fall. No wonder he is often shedding tears.

I know how to speak out from my corner. I can catch most every inconsistency and nuance. I notice that after 9/11 and the Iraq War the Republicans shut down any kind of inquiry but Benghazi has them salivating. I notice that many Republican Presidential contenders for 2016 are busy telling us why they are “not Mitt” but fail to mention how supportive they were of him until he lost. I see articles where Sarah Palin is thinking that we need a third party. I need to let them sort it out amongst themselves.

I need to practice being gentle in victory. I can still be firm in my principles. The same active listening that persuaded voters is still the best approach I have. I tell myself that the losers have their tasks and that the winners cannot stop just because we won. Winning is a fragile thing. Nurturing all the relationships and progress we’ve made is a most important task.

I do need to bite my tongue sometimes though. The thoughts that I might express if my filter slipped are not gentle or kind or even very productive. I never thought winning would feel so good. I just don’t want winning to make me mean.

  • NCrissieB

    Thank you for this, addisnana. It’s hard not to gloat when GOP leaders spent the past four years undermining our economy for what they hoped would be partisan gain, only to see that the American people recognized that and dealt Republicans a startling set of losses. From the White House to Congress, and in many statehouses and ballot initiatives across the U.S., voters rejected the GOP platform of wealth, white, heterosexual, Christian, and male privilege.

    Yet as you say, gloating will not help us win more Freds. We can be both steadfast in our principles and gracious in our attitudes, and our nation needs both if we have any hope to heal.

  • addisnana

    Somebody has to go first on being gracious. Clearly the Republicans are not stepping up nationally. I realized that now is really the start of 2014 and I can “glow” in the wins of 2012 and be gracious while we start for 2014. Given what I think of some of the GOP it would be easy to be downright mean.